What if they don't like me?

Today as I was reading posts in groups I belong to on Facebook, I came across a question from a woman wanting to know how to get past her fear of advertising her freelance work, because people might not like her.

It’s a common fear, especially among women, who are raised to be unobtrusive, make nice, and please people and it’s a tough one to get over. I know I was afraid for a long time too. Many of us spend a lifetime trying to free our voices and rid ourselves of the fear that we’re not good enough and that people won’t like us or what we have to offer.

Some of us are so paralyzed by it that we live our lives on the sidelines afraid to go for what we really want, because other people might not approve.

The thing is that trying to be all things to all people is a losing proposition. We are never going to please all the people all the time. And more importantly, we’re never going to please OURSELVES or live a truly fulfilling life, if we let others define who we are and what we do. 

And that’s why sometimes we need to channel our inner Cinderella and push ourselves to go to the ball without worrying about what our nasty step-family is going to say.

No matter what we do, we will always be able to find someone who doesn’t approve. And usually. those are not the people DOING and going after their dreams! The more authentically we show up in the world, the more we are going attract a circle that cheers for and supports us. And let me tell you, once you give up focusing on pleasing everyone else and start to put your energies toward letting people see how amazing you really are, everything changes. You start to draw people to you who appreciate your mission and values and suddenly it feels pretty okay to say, “Go with God, but go” to the people, who don’t get you.

And that’s a good thing, because you, my friend, are a unique combination of personality, talents, and experiences and the world needs you. You have so much to offer that no one else on the face of this earth is equipped to offer in your special way, so don’t hide your light. Own your special brand of magic!

We are in the season of Imbolc and spring, the time of new beginnings, Where in your life have you stayed stagnant due to fear? Big or small, where might you make a new beginning that you’ve always wanted to make?