Do you believe in fairies?

Do you remember that part of Peter Pan where Tinkerbell has been poisoned by Captain Hook and is dying? In the story, the only way for her to get well again, is for children all over the world to clap, if they believe in fairies. Peter cries out to all the children, dreaming in Neverland:

Do you believe?

And many of the children clap. Some don’t, but enough do and Tink is saved.

Our dreams are a lot like fairies. Some of us don’t listen to them. We ignore them, stop believing in them, and slowly a piece of our hearts withers and dies. As we grow older, we develop a lot of reasons for why we are too busy for them, why we don’t deserve to have them, why they are not possible, why we’re selfish for even wanting them. I know, I’ve done it myself.

For a long time, I wasn’t much of a clapper. I was working 60+ hour weeks, trying to take care of a household – my mom who has Alzheimer’s disease, my family, my little pack of stray dogs. I was exhausted as it was. I didn’t have time for clapping!

But here’s the thing:

You can’t get water from an empty well.

We need our dreams. We need fulfillment. We need happiness. It is only when we have those things that we can show up in the world as our best selves and do the work that we were put here to do. That might be raising strong, kind, healthy children. The might be being CEO of an innovative company. That might be nursing the sick or feeding the poor. That might be creating beauty in the world through our art.  It might be a job, it might be a few hours of your day or simply how you choose to live.

The truth is that it doesn’t matter what it is. What matters is that it fills you up, that you have some corner of your busy life that fills you up.

The thing is that you have to believe.

You have to believe there is time for you too.

You have to believe you deserve it.

You have to believe you can do it.

You have to believe that you (yes YOU!) are entitled to happiness

So, what do you say? Are you going to be one of the ones who claps?

I hope so. You know you want to…

 “You will never be able to escape from your heart. So it is better to listen to what it has to say.”

Paulo Coehlo, The Alchemist